Jun 14, 2012

finding balance

Today I am asking my readers to join in on a conversation in the comments section below. I'm asking the question, "How do you find balance being a parent?"

I find that, being a creatively-wired person, my artistic inspiration and impulses can sometimes bully my practical side. While this allows me to devote fun time with the kids, it often means my house suffers: laundry and even sometimes the quality of our meals when I'm rushing at the last moment.
 But, the creative things that I engage in: crafting, writing, playing and making silly things with the kids make me happy. Being a parent, while joyful, is also super-duper stressful at times (as you all know) and so engaging in things I enjoy is critical and helps fuel me. 
Yet, I still haven't mastered the art of the balance. I'd love to know from my readers who are moms of all ages, do you ever feel like you have everything under control? How do you do it? 
How do you make time for everything? 
Is that even possible? 

 Please discuss below. 
Love, Caroline

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leigh hewett said...

I have the exact same struggle. It seems to help my house if I delegate. Sometimes I put the kids to work with me. Other times I have an emotional break down and make my husband pick up the slack. A little help goes a long way.

Rebecca said...

We just roll with the flow. Sometimes the current is very swift and we struggle to keep up and other times it's just a slow trickle and we idle along. It all evens out in the end the important thing is to see a few sights along the way and to enjoy the ride.

Unknown said...

I think we all struggle with this, and I only have one child (and two jobs, and a garden, cat, ect...)! I recently read from another mom that she gave up the idea of balance because it puts too much pressure on everything getting done equally well (near impossible) and instead strives for "making it work". I really like this concept, letting go of perfectionism is a big help. Also knowing your limits, two jobs, nightly swim lessons and in-laws visiting and two parties to plan is WAY too much. Let's just say this week it's more about survival than balance but some how we are making it work!

Unknown said...

I never feel like I have things under control in every area. We all struggle with that, for sure! I have to allow myself grace, to let the dishes go once in awhile without guilt, to not do laundry every single day, even when it's piling up, not step away from the sewing machine for a few weeks, to let the house be messy while I sit with the kids and spend time with them. It's hard. Right now I'm trying to get through the Bible in 90 days and that takes up A LOT of my spare time. There are seasons, and I'm learning to go along with them. Different seasons require different priorities, but I think that we keep them straight (God first, of course, and family), then all else will take care of itself. If only the dishes would take care of themselves. HA HA!

Caroline said...

Leigh--me too! ;) And the delegating sounds like a good idea. Liz and Helen are old enough now. I love your style of mothering. Like I always say--you are the Mama zen of the blog world.

Rebecca--YOU are amazing. I love how you roll with it. I needed that reminder! You are always good at remember to stop and smell the roses.

small +friendly--I am so glad I "met" you. And you are awesome--talented and a good Mama to boot! I like what you said about letting go of perfectionism. I struggle with that. I think many artistic people struggle with that when they are being honest about it.

Jenny, my wise friend. You always know the right thing to say at the right moment. And you are absolutely right, when I keep my priorities straight (which, like you are God first) everything else falls into place.

LOVE to all of you amazing Mama friends. I am so fortunate to know you guys.

Anonymous said...

um lets see I'm a mother of 3. Teenage girl (should I say more) that's 15 & boys that are 10 & 8. I started off young & it's definitely been eye opening as a parent. I never thought it would be so rewarding & challenging to say at the least. We wake up everyday in our small ranch style home & get ready for our day. I drop the kids off at school & then go to work. I work part time so, I can pick them up from school after (I have an hour to myself everyday) which I cherish or run an errand, just depends on how I'm feeling. In the summer when the kids are out of school (they go to work with me, how awesome is that?) after work, we go to the pool, watch Netflix, play games, really, whatever the kids want to do, or its spontaneous & go venture out somewhere. I use cozi.com calendar to keep up w/ our appointments. I'm not artsy, but I love art & started an art journal which is so not me, but I'm learning how to express myself there. I really need to journal, would rather do other things instead, I know its good for me. So, balancing work & home & life is a journey. We take it one day at a time. I pick my battles w/ my children. I've been through a lot & I know I will go through a lot more. I'm truly blessed & wouldn't trade being a Mom for anything in this world.

Caroline said...

Hey Athena, thank you so much for stopping by. Your words made my day. xo!

Susan Anderson said...

As long as the house was hygienic, I didn't judge this too much. At the end of the day I would do a quick whirlwind to pick up al the toys, but that was about it except for deep cleaning as needed.

My focus was more on having fun with the kids and getting the homework done.


Maxabella said...

Personally, I think you've got the balance just right! x